I\u2019m a civil servant about to turn 30 on October 2nd, and my fianc\u00e9e, who is 26, just completed her youth service but hasn\u2019t found a job yet. We\u2019re planning to get married in December. Our relationship has been great, and I\u2019ve supported her through polytechnic and her family with my modest salary. However, recently she\u2019s been distant and threatening to end our relationship because I refused to give her 50k for her mother\u2019s abortion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When she first asked for the money, I thought it was a misunderstanding and assumed it was for something else. I was confused as to why her mother would need an abortion, especially since her father is still around. She explained that the pregnancy wasn\u2019t from her father but from her mother\u2019s younger lover, who is unemployed. She\u2019s worried about the consequences if her father finds out, hence the need for an abortion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I told her firmly that I couldn\u2019t support such an act. Since then, she\u2019s been avoiding me, not returning my calls, and has been distant. Yesterday, when I visited her house, her mother was cold and unhelpful, confirming my fears that this rift is due to the abortion money. Last night, I received a text from my fianc\u00e9e saying that if I didn\u2019t give her the money, it meant I don\u2019t love her and that our relationship would end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I\u2019ve been trying to explain that I don\u2019t have the money and that I can\u2019t support such a decision, but she\u2019s not answering my calls. I\u2019m torn between getting a loan to keep her in my life or sticking to my principles and risking losing her. I need honest advice.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I\u2019m a civil servant about to turn 30 on October 2nd, and my fianc\u00e9e, who is 26, just completed her youth service but hasn\u2019t found a job yet. We\u2019re planning to get married in December. Our relationship has been great, and I\u2019ve supported her through polytechnic and her family with my modest salary. However, recently …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1258,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[52],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1257","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-counseling"],"yoast_head":"\n