Some months ago, I delivered human hair to a client at her residence in Bayelsa. At that time, I was working with a particular hair brand, and she purchased two wigs worth 190,000 naira.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Her name was Amaka, an Igbo woman\u2014petite and slightly curvaceous. When it comes to fashion, many people, especially women, are willing to spend generously. But there’s more to this story than just a sale.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I was leaving, having descended from the third floor of her apartment, she called me back, saying she wanted to have a private conversation. I agreed, and we both made our way downstairs. She pulled out two plastic chairs, and we sat under the shade of a garage, protected from the scorching sun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Amaka confided in me that she was 38 years old and felt that time was no longer on her side. She explained that she was looking for a partner to settle down with but found it challenging. She described herself as an introvert who preferred staying indoors and mentioned that she was a graduate, successfully running her own business and making good money by the grace of God.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I bluntly told her that staying in one place wouldn’t help her find a man.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
She responded, \u201cBut I love my space. I know the kind of problems I’ve avoided just by staying alone. The reason I want a man in my life is because, no matter how much I use sex toys to please myself, they can never give me a child. I yearn for a partner to fulfill my desire for a child. Although I\u2019m financially stable, my emotional well-being feels lacking. I want a child badly but don\u2019t want to end up with the wrong man.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I asked, “Have you discussed this with your pastor?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cNo\u2026 This is something personal. How do I even begin to explain to my pastor that I need a man? It feels awkward.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhat about your family members\u2014your mom, your sister?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cPlease, don\u2019t even go there. They have too many problems of their own. We\u2019re not even on good terms.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I replied, \u201cYou need to keep praying and avoid isolating yourself. While you fight this battle physically, don\u2019t neglect the spiritual aspect because this isn\u2019t just a normal issue.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cDo you think I haven\u2019t been praying all this time?\u201d she asked.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cThen try to explore new opportunities that will expose you to the outside world, to other people. Men are attracted to women who showcase their value.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Before I left, she asked if I could help her find a man, promising to continue patronizing me if I did. I assured her I would do my best and suggested posting about it on my platforms to assist her search. After our conversation, I said goodbye.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As I left, it struck me how stunning Amaka was. It made me realize that not all beautiful women have partners; some are secretly struggling to find love or to have children, resorting to other means for comfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Everyone has their own battles in life. What seems easy for one person might be incredibly difficult for another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s no such thing as just waiting for \u201cGod\u2019s time\u201d if you\u2019re not actively doing something. If she continues to isolate herself, she might grow old without ever finding a partner or having a child of her own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Life is a journey, and it\u2019s important to take steps forward, not just wait for things to fall into place.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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