I have been in a relationship with Christy almost as long as I have been married.
We started dating when she was around 17 years and just entered the university.
She’s 24 now.
I married a woman who isn’t very good at bedroom things. In fact, she could stay for as long as three months without it. It became worse when we got married and has children. More of her attention shifted to the children and less on me.
But I always had Christy to fall to whenever I needed comfort. She respected my marital status, never asked too much from me nor did she expect much.
She just liked me and at a time, we became more of friends with benefits.
She never asked me for money to satisfy my urges rather I took care of her transport fare whenever she visited.
She is also very smart and have been helpful to me in my business which is also her field of study.
One day, my wife, while using my phone to watch a skit on Facebook, saw a message Christy sent. Out of curiosity she opened it and saw everything.
When she confronted me about it, I threw the blame back at her.
“I always warned you to meet your responsibility in bed and you keep taking my warnings for granted,” I said. “She is doing for me what you failed to do. Besides, she is more of a friend and business adviser and have helped me grow my business.”
My wife wouldn’t listen to me. She didn’t want to admit that her denials pushed me to seek comfort in the arms of another.
For months, my marriage was strained. I expected it to end at any time. Christy urged me to try and make peace with her and save my marriage at least for the sake of my children.
One day when I got home, I heard some people talking and laughing in my sitting room.
I walked in and boom, there was my wife sitting with Christy.
“What’s going on here?”
“Nothing,” my wife said. “We’re just getting to know each other.”
I later found out that my wife found Christy on Facebook and sent her a request. They started chatting online then agreed to meet each other.
My wife opened up that she wasn’t oblivious to the issues in our marriage. She admitted she had neglected my needs and had been too focused on the children and household responsibilities.
“I understand why you sought comfort elsewhere,” she said, tears in her eyes. “But I didn’t know how to fix things. I thought maybe we had grown too far apart.”
Christy, sitting beside her, looked equally emotional. “We’ve been talking, and I helped her see things from your perspective. She knows that she’s been neglecting you, but she also wants to work on things, for the sake of your family.”
I was taken aback. I didn’t know what to say. Here were the two most important women in my life, sitting together, trying to find a solution to our problems.
“I want to make this work,” my wife continued. “I want to be the wife you need, and I’m willing to try harder. But I also know how much Christy means to you. If you’re willing to be honest with me, and we can set boundaries, I can accept her being part of our lives.”
It felt surreal, but there was a glimmer of hope. We discussed openly, laying out our feelings, boundaries, and expectations. My wife, Christy, and I agreed that honesty and communication would be key moving forward.
From that day on, things began to change. My wife made an effort to be more attentive to our relationship. Christy remained a supportive friend (with benefits which my wife accepted and allowed) and business advisor, respecting the boundaries we had set. It wasn’t a conventional arrangement, but it worked for us. We found a balance that kept our family intact and allowed everyone to feel valued and loved.
Once my wife suggested a threesome which we did and liked it.
In the end, our marriage grew stronger. The experience taught us the importance of communication, understanding, and compromise. It wasn’t perfect, but it was real.
Christy got married last week. I stopped sleeping with her after she got engaged. Her man wouldn’t understand our relationship.
My wife and I have made tremendous improvement in our bedmantics. My wife was Christy’s wedding planner and our relationship has remained strong. Sometimes I think both women are closer to each other than ever.
But hey, mine worked out fine doesn’t mean your wife would do what mine did so don’t try this in your home.
