My Fiancée Is Threatening to Break Up Because I Refused to Give Her Mother Money for an Abortion

I’m a civil servant about to turn 30 on October 2nd, and my fiancée, who is 26, just completed her youth service but hasn’t found a job yet. We’re planning to get married in December. Our relationship has been great, and I’ve supported her through polytechnic and her family with my modest salary. However, recently she’s been distant and threatening to end our relationship because I refused to give her 50k for her mother’s abortion.

When she first asked for the money, I thought it was a misunderstanding and assumed it was for something else. I was confused as to why her mother would need an abortion, especially since her father is still around. She explained that the pregnancy wasn’t from her father but from her mother’s younger lover, who is unemployed. She’s worried about the consequences if her father finds out, hence the need for an abortion.

I told her firmly that I couldn’t support such an act. Since then, she’s been avoiding me, not returning my calls, and has been distant. Yesterday, when I visited her house, her mother was cold and unhelpful, confirming my fears that this rift is due to the abortion money. Last night, I received a text from my fiancée saying that if I didn’t give her the money, it meant I don’t love her and that our relationship would end.

I’ve been trying to explain that I don’t have the money and that I can’t support such a decision, but she’s not answering my calls. I’m torn between getting a loan to keep her in my life or sticking to my principles and risking losing her. I need honest advice.